Every once in a while, the universe blesses us with perfect moments. Looking back, I find many of them scattered through my lifetime. One that has stayed with me over the years happened when I was a young man navigating the hormonal rapids that course through a seventeen-year-old body. While walking down a side street in New York City, I came upon a magnificent looking woman who was waiting for her car in front of a parking garage. Our eyes met, and she gave me a beatific smile that still radiates through me nearly a half century later. I never stopped or turned; no part of me sought any continuation of our singular connection. It was complete, and I was forever transformed by it.
There have been many perfect moments since then, some shared with other humans, others involving animals, soulful art or music, an exquisite event in nature, or the solitude of meditation. Every single one was a gift. The lords of karma (or whoever else is in charge of such things) hit the pause button and time stops dead in its tracks. We are ecstatically lost in the infinite instant. The best way to say it in words is perhaps: “I suddenly found myself utterly in love.”
So what makes a moment perfect?
Yesterday I was a speaker at the Body, Mind, Spirit Expo in Santa Monica, California. As always in my presentations, I was exploring the nature of the Oneness, likening it to a cosmic hologram fed and informed by every point of consciousness spread across the universe. I like to bring my audience to a place of perceiving that each of us is a point through which the Oneness experiences itself. Every thought, word, and deed flows into the collective heart mind of All That Is.
During my talk, the following allegory suddenly popped into my mind as an example: There is only one apple left on the planet. You are selected as the one to eat it on behalf of the entire creation, aware that everything you taste, feel, think, and experience in the process will be forever recorded in the holographic matrix of creation. Imagine how present and mindful you would be, how you would savor every morsel, knowing this experience could never again be repeated.
What if we lived every single moment of our lives in that state of reverence? What if we could hold this thought at the forefront of our minds as we go about the mundane and exalted tasks of daily life?
I had apparently stumbled across a perspective that the universe wanted me to understand more completely – for as we all know, saying the words and living the experience are very different matters. As I was walking to my car to begin the three-hour journey home, I received a call from a dear friend, asking me to come to her store to meet an extraordinary young lady. I immediately agreed for a host of irrelevant reasons: the store was in the general direction of my drive home; I was hungry and lunch sounded like a good idea – especially since one of my favorite restaurants in West Hollywood is less than two blocks from the store; I was intrigued by the impeccable timing of the call and had long ago decided to say yes to whatever the universe offered me.
It turned out to be one of the more fruitful decisions of my life. The young lady and I ended up eating alone, as my friend’s shop suddenly became busy and she couldn’t tear herself away. From the moment we met, it seemed we had already known each other for several lifetimes. There was none of the polite spiral conversation demanded by social protocol – star signs, favorite music, or what we thought about global warming. We dove into each other’s heart within the first five minutes. In fact, words just seemed to get in the way.
I sat across the table from her and found myself transported as if I were once again back on a New York City street, bathed by the warmth of that magnificent smile. I looked into her soul and knew that I was in the presence of a goddess and that however much I might protest or deny it, I had fallen utterly in love. It was another perfect moment.
I believe there is an instant in every meeting when this opportunity for divine connection happens, but for it to persist beyond its customary nanosecond, both parties need to be willing to risk total exposure to the radiance of pure, unconditional love. I looked into her young eyes and voiced the question my heart was asking: “How many times a day do you find yourself in love?”
“Every moment,” she answered.
I have met the one who loves countless times before, as she (an aspect of our divine feminine) exists in every single one of us. But in most of us she lies buried under multiple layers of protection, deposited even before birth to shield us from the slings and arrows of a largely unconscious world. How can we dare love with reckless abandon when our minds too quickly recall the painful consequences of allowing ourselves to become swept up in the moment?
The young woman I had lunch with, like the New York woman with the haunting smile, unreservedly allow themselves to emerge fully into the moment. Such expressions of love without condition or agenda are invitations to emerge from the privacy of our imagined fears and share the ecstasy of the apple. We are suddenly in the presence of Eve inviting us to reenter the Garden we so foolishly abandoned long, long ago. If we follow her, we step into a divinely perfect moment.
Given the choice between love and fear, why do we reject love almost every time? I suspect it is our egos deciding for us. The lower realms of our nature thrive on drama and pain. Our ego shuns the light like a psychic vampire retreating from the rising sun. But when we learn to love unconditionally in every moment of our lives, our egos no longer have a stage upon which to perform their mischief. I, for one, would love to live in such a world, one which knows only perfect moments. Perhaps we could share it together.
Jean-Claude Gerard Koven is a writer and speaker based in Vilcabamba, Ecuador. He was a featured weekly columnist for the UPI (United Press International) Religion and Spirituality Forum and is the author of Going Deeper: How to Make Sense of Your Life When Your Life Makes No Sense, recipient of both the Allbooks Reviews Editor’s Choice Award and the USABookNews.com Award for the Best Metaphysical Book of the Year.
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